Listen... do you hear "I'm waiting for...", far too often?
Well, I am DOING IT!
In my internal dialogue, I say it ALL the time - wow, what a realisation. I'm waiting for the weather to warm up (after Adelaide's extreme weather lately), I'm waiting for my body to get rid of bacteria (eww, gross), I'm waiting for them to apologise/come to their senses/tell me they love me.....
And how long could I go on waiting? How long do I have on this planet?
I'll share something about me, I can't see any benefit from worrying, overthinking things, owning someone else's troubles or negativity. I'm not on this planet long enough for that!
So, I've made concious choices to not do these things. How have I done this? (I hear a whole lot of worriers saying, "give me the answer PLEEeeaaase!).
I've found, the best way to let something go or stop doing something is to replace it. When I gave up smoking, I replaced the habit with three things. Firstly, I ate a lot of those long pretzels to replicate hand to mouth action. I also kept track of how much money I wasn't spending in a week, as I was no longer sending it up in flames. And as a final reward, I treated myself to punnets of flowers or vegetables, to less than the value of my savings so that I was still in front financially.
And now I look at my two very healthy children and KNOW that I gave them the best start in life - without the poison. Yet even back then, I now realise I was waiting for a reason to give up smoking, and my baby made me do it.
Yet sometimes waiting is necessary. It has a basis, like a baby - you can't speed that up.
So, as I sit here wearing my thermal underwear, with an annoying cough and a swollen tummy, I am making a pact with myself, when I hear, I'm waiting, I'll stop and think.
Is this waiting appropriate? Will it help if I speed up the process? And then, where and when I can, I will take action.
Action makes the world go round. - Alexandra James
