And all it takes is a suggestion...
And you're off! What seemed huge, so, so serious and was all that you could see suddenly seems smaller, less serious and NOT the most important thing in the world.
So what changed?
Two things happened -
- connection via a shared laugh, and
- a release of some feel-good brain chemicals.
Let's look at connection. Have you ever felt like the loneliest person in the room? I have. I understand what it feels like to feel so overwhelmed by external stimuli that it feels like my ears, eyes, breath and skin are being invaded and I need to run. So, whilst there's a feeling of loneliness, there's a need to escape.
And yet, sometimes all it takes is one person to look you in the eye, tilt their head and giggle and you're giggling alongside them. This is a learnt technique. There's a learning to initiate it and it's learnt behaviour to recognise and respond to it. And it's a beautiful thing when it happens. I've been fortunate to have a little brother that gets me every time!
And that shared look, that giggle is about connection. It can be a simple shared moment or something quite intimate. The opposite of connection is disconnection, sadly it's easier to withdraw and hide and hug the pain to yourself rather than seek connection, persist and find those moments that make you truly happy. Living a healthy balanced life includes a number of these moments, yet, if you're the loneliest person in the room, how do you make it happen?
Step One
Embrace vulnerability. You'll be hearing more about this...the latest research is suggesting that those that live whole heartedly, with courage, are those that are open to vulnerability. Think...., the guy that gets the date is the one that risks rejection and yet asks her out anyway. The person that has a 'yes' default leads an exciting life.
Step Two
Be open to fun. Recognise when someone is trying to connect through humour and respond in kind. And yes, this comes back to being open to vulnerability, accepting the risk that you might lookk silly, yet being able to accept that this is okay. It takes only a moment to connect, yet it can release those delicious feel-good brain chemicals.
Step Three
Find people that are ready to Come to Life, connecting in a positive, mutually respected environment. Take lessons, practice on your family and friends. Apply the domino effect so that your good intentions come right back atcha!
The Mojo Factory provides a framework to polish your Mojo, to foster connection, to come to life. This is an open invitation - you know that saying, 'I want what she's got'? Well, you can have it too.
